Winning - The Promised Land
How do you go about your matches
or tournaments? What is your mindset? Do you play with a sense of goodwill or
do you get caught in the ego desire to “crush” your opponent(s)? This isn’t
saying that winning isn’t important, it’s just a comment on how best to play in
the true spirit of the game.
I find that many players, in
their desire to win, actually focus their mind on the wrong things that take
them out of their game and their play suffers from this. In the west we’ve been
conditioned to focus only on being 1st. After all, if you don’t win
you’re just
the first loser. This is the
western mantra, like it or not. Sad, really.
I recall David Duval finishing 2nd
in the Masters one year behind Tiger woods. He was being interviewed and a
reporter commented on “how bad you must feel for losing.”
David, in a response filled with
amusement and amazement said, “Where did
the idea come from that finishing 2nd is losing?! Of course I wanted
to win but why should I feel bad for finishing in 2nd in a major
championship?” His point is spot on, in
my opinion. The compulsion to only care about the big “W” is killing many
players’ chances at performing to their potential.
Winning “Isn’t” Everything
Being so centered around getting
the victory at all costs and feeling bad when this doesn’t happen is a recipe
for actually becoming the loser everyone dreads being. Think about it.
If you feel poorly every time you don’t win a bet with your buddies, a match or
a PGA event, you better give up the game of golf real soon and spare yourself a
future filled with inner torment and grief.
The game is about you challenging
yourself and playing a golf course. The true competition is yourself! If you
tap your potential and learn how to channel all of your skills, both mind and
body, into your game, then you’ll experience victory every time you tee it up.
The camaraderie is another
important part of golf. Congratulating your opponent/friend when they
win is equally important as winning itself. Jack Nicklaus prided himself on
being a gracious “loser” (I use that term loosely of course) and making damn
sure he left his bruised ego out of things after a match/tournament.
Winning is a state of mind, not
just something that happens when you come in 1st. When you’re mindis prepared properly, you respect the game and your playing
partners/opponents, you won’t need to concern yourself so much about winning.
You’ve already won. Enjoy the fullness of the game. This really relaxes the
mind and then personal victory is inevitable. When you make this approach your
overall mental habit, you will get those actual “wins” far more often.
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